"Anyone who intends to come with Me has to let Me lead. You're not in the drivers seat; I am.
Don't run from suffering; embrace it. Follow Me and I'll show you how. Self-help is no help at all. Self-sacrifice is the way, My way, to finding yourself, you're true self. What kind of deal is it to get everything you want, but lose yourself?" ~Matthew 16:24-26 MSG