The Problem With Casual Dating


Woo! This topic is cray cray! Everyone has a different opinion on it. I'm about to share mine. Feel free to leave a comment with your opinion (please be respectful).

Just for the record, I'm not against dating per se. I think what Jeff Bethke said is very true, "Dating is supposed to be an awesome cycle of a guy pursuing and a girl responding." Yes! That's how it should be! (and girls, it should be the GUY pursuing, not you.) However, I am against what the world has made dating into.

From a very young age we're taught how to impress the opposite sex. The importance of finding "the one" is placed into our minds as children. As soon are you get past the awkward pre-teen stage, the questions start coming! "Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?" "So, are you seeing anybody?" "Found a good one yet?" Everybody makes it seem like if you don't have somebody you're a nobody and have no value.

So the problem starts. You get a guy or a girl, you break up. You find someone else, you break up. You continue going through this until you get to the age you'd like to be married and then you get married.

The problem with casual dating, going from one person to another and another is that we're seeking satisfaction and fulfillment from something that won't fill us up.

We were made for God first and foremost. True, He did say it was not good for man to be alone, but do remember that there was ONE Eve, not 20 for Adam to pick and choose from.

I've heard people use the excuse, "I don't mean to date around, I'm just trying to figure out what I like and don't like. What I want and don't want." So you're using a person who has a heart and soul just like you, and discarding them when they aren't exactly what you want? Okay, that sounds really messed up. Maybe that's because it is really messed up. I don't need to date around to know that I don't want an abusive boyfriend or husband.

We need to get down to the core of the problem. Why are you dating? What is the reason behind it? Is it because you want to get rid of feeling lonely? Is it because if you're not with someone you feel like something isn't right? Is it because the world says you need to be dating somebody and if you're not than something must be wrong with you?

We need to turn to the Lord. We need to seek Him first. God first, everything else second. We need Him to be at the very center of our lives before we go and share our life with somebody.

People might say that casually dating is "not a big deal", but it actually is because you can't date someone and not share a part of yourself with them. Thinking ahead though, wouldn't you want to tell your future husband or wife that you guarded your heart and didn't give away anything that was to be theirs one day? That sounds wonderful to me.

If you're struggling with dating or going from person to person, know that you can turn to the Lord and ask Him for help and He'll hear you and answer! :) Know that there is freedom and forgiveness in His arms. That loneliness you're trying to fill, He promises to fill you up. He's the living water that will never make us thirst again. Let God fill your heart and soul up first, then, trust Him that He'll fulfill your desire (Psalm 37:4) to be married one day. Give Him your all! Delight in Him! Have a blessed day!


  1. Interesting topic!
    I so love reading blogs about dating.
    Thanks for this one.

    1. Thanks for your comment!:)
      Hope you found some helpful insight here. Let me know if there are any specific questions on dating you'd like answered! God bless.


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